Submissive traits test — explore the character of your submission

Submission is not passivity, people-pleasing, or an absence of confidence. Genuine submission is a specific, active orientation — requiring courage, self-knowledge, trust extended deliberately, and honest communication. This test explores whether your character aligns with the genuine version of submission, and if so, what kind of submissive you are.

Answer based on your genuine instincts, not the version of submission you think sounds right.

Work through each question and choose the answer that feels most true — go with your gut rather than what you think you should answer. Note your choices as you go, then scroll down for your results.

Question 1: When you trust someone deeply, what do you find yourself wanting to do?

A. Follow their lead — in a kink context, defer to their direction and let them shape the experience.
B. Push back playfully — test their authority a little, see how they hold it, find out if they are worth submitting to.
C. Serve them — anticipate what they need, provide it willingly, find satisfaction in their satisfaction.

Question 2: What does genuine vulnerability feel like to you?

A. Powerful — with the right person, being genuinely exposed or surrendered is an intense and meaningful experience.
B. Something to earn — you do not give it easily, but when the right person has earned it, you want to give it fully.
C. Intimate — the deepest form of connection you know how to offer.

Question 3: How do you respond to clear, direct authority from someone you respect?

A. Compliantly — following clear direction from the right person feels right and even calming.
B. With a little resistance first — you want to know the authority holds before you settle into following it.
C. With genuine pleasure — being given clear direction by someone you trust is exactly what you are looking for.

Question 4: What draws you most to a potential Dominant partner?

A. Their calm, settled confidence — they do not need to perform authority; they simply have it.
B. Their ability to match and contain your energy — you want someone who can handle you.
C. Their attentiveness and care — the way they notice you and respond to your needs even while directing you.

Question 5: How do you communicate about what you want in a kink context?

A. Directly and honestly — you know what you want and you can say it clearly before a scene begins.
B. Through behaviour and response — you show what works for you through how you react.
C. With detail and care — you take negotiation seriously and make sure your Dominant has everything they need to lead well.

Question 6: What does your ideal submission look like?

A. Physical — being restrained, directed, or used in ways that put control of your body in someone else's hands.
B. Psychological — being directed, managed, and held accountable in ways that affect how you think and feel.
C. Service-based — expressing submission through devoted attention to your Dominant's wellbeing and preferences.

Question 7: How do you feel about structure and rules within a dynamic?

A. Comfortable — clear expectations feel grounding rather than restrictive.
B. Dependent on the Dominant — if they are the right person, you can follow structure; if not, it feels hollow.
C. Genuinely appealing — the structure of rules and protocols is part of what you are looking for.

Question 8: After an intense scene, what do you need?

A. Physical comfort and closeness — warmth, presence, being held.
B. To debrief and process — you want to talk through what happened and feel genuinely seen.
C. Time and space — you process internally and need quiet to come back to yourself.

Your results

Count up your answers and find your result below.

Mostly A — Yielding and physically-oriented submission

Your submission is physical first — you are drawn to restraint, direction over your body, and the specific experience of control applied in a physical way. You follow compliantly when the authority is genuine, you communicate directly, and you need physical aftercare. You are looking for a Dominant who is skilled with the body and settled in their authority. Read our guide to what a submissive is and safe bondage practices, and find a Dominant on Kink Connex who brings the physical skill and presence your submission deserves.

Mostly B — Resistant and psychologically-oriented submission — the brat

Your submission is earned rather than given freely — you test authority before you yield to it, and the dynamic of resistance and containment is itself part of what makes submission meaningful for you. This is brat orientation: you are not disobedient out of disrespect but because the right Dominant is one who can handle you. Read our guide to brat taming, explore the submissive guide, and find a Dominant who enjoys the challenge on Kink Connex.

Mostly C — Service-oriented and devoted submission

Your submission is expressed through service — attending carefully to your Dominant's needs, finding satisfaction in their satisfaction, and bringing devotion and attentiveness as your primary offering. Structure and protocols hold genuine appeal for you. You are looking for a Dominant who genuinely wants and appreciates devoted service rather than someone who simply wants physical control. Read our guide to service submission and find the right Dominant on Kink Connex.

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