What is my kink quiz — discover what you actually want

Knowing that you are interested in kink is one thing. Knowing specifically which kind of kink genuinely appeals to you — which activities, which dynamics, which elements of power exchange or sensation or role play actually produce a real pull — is more specific and more useful.

This quiz maps which territory you are most drawn to. Go with your gut. The honest answer is always more useful than the answer you think you should give.

Work through each question and choose the answer that feels most true — go with your gut rather than what you think you should answer. Note your choices as you go, then scroll down for your results.

Question 1: When you think about a kink encounter you would genuinely look forward to, what element excites you most?

A. Physical sensation — restraint, impact, temperature, intensity applied to the body.
B. Psychological dynamics — control, surrender, words, attention, power.
C. A specific object, material, or body part that holds particular significance for you.

Question 2: Which scenario sounds most appealing?

A. Being tied up or restraining someone, with careful attention to sensation and physical experience.
B. A dynamic where one person directs the experience and the other follows — the power exchange itself is the point.
C. A scenario built around a specific interest — feet, leather, latex, uniforms, or another particular focus.

Question 3: What draws you to BDSM content when you encounter it?

A. The physical choreography — the rope work, the implements, the skill of handling the body.
B. The relationship dynamic between the people — who holds power, how it is expressed and received.
C. Specific imagery or details that hold a particular charge for you regardless of the dynamic.

Question 4: In a kink scenario, where does the most intense experience come from for you?

A. Physical sensation — the feeling of restraint, impact, heat, cold, or sensory overload.
B. Psychological state — the feeling of control, surrender, trust, or vulnerability.
C. The presence of a specific element — material, role, setting, or object — that carries erotic significance.

Question 5: What would you most want a kink partner to bring?

A. Physical skill — they know what they are doing with their hands, with implements, with the body.
B. Psychological intelligence — they read you, they direct the dynamic, they understand power.
C. Shared interest in a specific kink — they get exactly what does it for you without explanation.

Question 6: Which of these terms resonates most strongly?

A. Bondage, impact play, sensation, physical intensity.
B. Dominance, submission, control, power exchange, protocols.
C. Fetish, specific interest, particular charge, material or role focus.

Question 7: When you fantasise about kink, what is the element you always return to?

A. A physical act or sensation — something done to or with the body.
B. A relational dynamic — who leads, who yields, how authority and trust move between people.
C. A specific detail that holds erotic significance and appears across different scenarios.

Question 8: What would make you most reluctant to pursue a kink connection?

A. A partner who is not physically skilled or careful — who does not know what they are doing with their body.
B. A partner with no interest in the psychological dimension — who just wants physical acts with no dynamic.
C. A partner who does not share or understand your specific kink and cannot engage with it genuinely.

Your results

Count up your answers and find your result below.

Mostly A — Sensation and physical play

Your kink interests centre on physical experience — the body, sensation, and what is done to or with it. Bondage, impact play, rope work, temperature play, and sensory deprivation are likely to be your territory. The physical craft of kink — the skill, the attentiveness, the precision — is what draws you. Explore our guides to bondage, impact play, and Shibari, and find partners with the right physical skills on Kink Connex.

Mostly B — Power exchange and psychological dynamics

Your kink interests centre on the relational dynamic — the psychological experience of power exchange, control, and surrender. Physical sensation may be part of it, but the dynamic between people is the core. Dominance, submission, protocols, service, and the specific intimacy of genuine trust are your territory. Explore our guides to understanding power exchange, Dominants, and submissives, and find dynamically compatible partners on Kink Connex.

Mostly C — Fetish and specific interest

Your kink interests are centred on something specific — a material, a role, a body part, or a particular dynamic that holds erotic significance across different scenarios. That specificity is not a limitation; it is clarity. You know what does it for you. Finding a partner who genuinely shares or appreciates that specific interest produces far better connections than someone who is generally kink-curious. Browse our types of kinks guide to find language for your interests, and find specifically compatible partners on Kink Connex.

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